On paper, I'm doing fine. I have a good job, and I make more money than my parents ever did. But every month, the money is gone before the next check comes We live paycheck to paycheck, rent, car, groceries, insurance, the kids' activities. I'm not buying anything fancy, and it still isn't enough. Nobody knows. At work, I'm the dependable one. At home, I'm the one who holds it all together. I smile, I say "I'm good," and then I lie awake at 2 a.m. doing math in my head. I'm t

For this past half decade of my life, I have financially prioritized and cared for those around me. I gave out of love but I am now realizing that it was one sided. Slowly my debt grew while their comfort remained, and when I was drained no one was there to support me. I have just escaped this situation however the regret for it all still remains. I honestly feel stupid. How do I heal my relationship with finances as well as forgive myself for all I gave? — Signed, The Gener

Dear Aunty I am 23 years old now and looking back on my life I am realizing the patterns of my family and myself. I want to do better but I realize I was never taught what better was or how to be confident in it. Most my family would either run from, ignore, or leech off of someone else in relation to their struggles. I don't want this for me in my life, but I have trouble recognizing what the "right" thing is to do and therefore freeze like those before me. How do I confiden

For this past half decade of my life, I have financially prioritized and cared for those around me. I gave out of love but I am now realizing that it was one sided. Slowly my debt grew while their comfort remained, and when I was drained no one was there to support me. I have just escaped this situation however the regret for it all still remains. I honestly feel stupid. How do I heal my relationship with finances as well as forgive myself for all I gave? — Signed, The Gener