I noticed something scary. I made a resolution to fix my finances and relationships, but I realized I’m doing exactly what my mother did at my age. I feel like I’m stuck in a loop. How do I stop this ‘New Year, Same Struggle’ cycle so I don’t pass it to my kids. Am I Repeating My Mother's Patterns? — Breaking the Chain

I’ve lived much of my life by someone else’s standards and rules. For as long as I can remember, I’ve been doing what was expected of me—pleasing my family, following the advice of teachers, and walking the straight line that seemed safest. Now I am 25, fresh out of college, and looking at the world with new eyes. The degree I worked so hard for is solid, practical, and secure. It promises stability, a steady paycheck, and a path that many people would consider “successful.”

I am doing everything I am supposed to do — paying my bills, showing up for work, trying to build something for myself. But no matter how hard I try, it feels like I am one unexpected expense away from losing everything. The fear is constant. My mind won't stop running through worst case scenarios and my spirit feels like it's shrinking under the weight of just trying to survive.

I spent New Year’s Eve setting my intentions. My 2026 vision board is full of affirmations, career goals, and everything I say I want. But honestly? I still feel stuck—like I’m dragging last year’s weight behind me. Why does it feel like I can’t start fresh, even when I want to? — Signed, Trying But Tired